Does God Orchestrate Miscarriages?

Many people have told me that they believe God wanted this baby for himself, or there must’ve been something wrong with the baby for this to happen, or my favorite, it was just bad luck. But I don’t think that’s the case. I don’t think God decides all of a sudden, that he’s going to take a baby from the mother‘s womb. I don’t think God would intentionally incorporate a miscarriage into His plan for someone’s life.

Just like sickness, God doesn't create specific illnesses, death or destruction. All of these things come from Satan and the fact that we live in a fallen world. The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full (John 10:10) Instead, I believe God can use the pain for our spiritual growth and testimony, but I do not believe miscarriages or the loss of a baby are part His divine plan. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28). We can have hope that even though we are walking through dark moments, we can still be an instrument for God to build His kingdom and fulfill His purpose in our lives. He can create a a purpose from our pain.

I was reading in Luke about Mary’s pregnancy and her meeting with Elizabeth. Mary had just found out that she had conceived and was carrying Jesus, basically only days into her pregnancy, and the second she walked into Elizabeth’s house, Elizabeths baby jumped and recognized that baby in Mary’s womb. I understood that the second of baby is conceived, it is a life, a soul, and a unique individual. Not just a ball of tissue that leaves the womb during miscarriages and is forgotten. We can have hope that we will see these babies again in heaven because since conception, your baby has a custom DNA sequence that is unique in itself. Regardless if your pregnancy was 3 days old or 3 months, your baby is real and is a special soul. I don't know what our heavenly bodies will look like, but I am encouraged that if Elizabeth's baby can recognize Jesus in Mary's womb that quickly, then we as mothers will recognize our babies in heaven. (See Luke 1:39-45)

Even though I didn’t have the opportunity to hold this baby, watch him grow, and I left the hospital empty- handed, I still consider myself a mother who has a son. One of the hardest parts for me was getting into the wheelchair at the hospital to go home. After all that pain and trauma, I didn’t have a baby to hold. That feeling of emptiness, loss and grief took over and all I could do is hang my head and cry. I felt shame, sorrow and a hopelessness in that moment. I know I will have a chance to hold this baby one day when we are together in Heaven, but that emptiness feels so heavy in the meantime. I still believe God is good, and he will hold onto me in the meantime just like he is currently holding onto my child.

Even though I didn’t have the opportunity to hold this baby, watch him grow, and I left the hospital empty- handed, I still consider myself a mother who has a son.